Give It Your All?

I respect people who devote themselves completely to a project or job. Without question, giving it your all usually awards you a competitive edge. But I worry about the limited investment driven people are able to make in other parts of their lives. If you invest 100% of your energy (and time) into a project, what is left for family, friends, or your own health? What about your personal life goals?

On this planet, we only have 23 hours, 57 minutes, and 4.1 seconds in a day. If you spend 18 hours working on your project, when will you see your children? When will you sleep or exercise? And when will you have time to chisel away at your hobby? For those of you who are working for the money, do you have time to spend or even manage the money you do make? If not, what’s the point? What’s the point of working that hard anyway? To do better? If your job is the most important thing in your life, then why let family or anyone else distract you? What’s the point?

I am all for investing yourself in your work. I work very hard myself. But I draw lines and live by rules. I will not let my job, or any project for that matter, take time away from my dreams. And I am actively optimizing my life to make more time with friends, family, travel, and personal projects.

Inventory your “all” and decide where best to map your energy and time.

Daily Dose of Peace

Dr. Craig Ormiston recommends one dose of peace everyday. Ten minutes where you can sit back and breathe. Lay down. Close your eyes. Silence your phone. Clear your mind. Remember that you are alive. I suggest resting in the grass, staring into the sky. Take a break when you’re overwhelmed, when you need it the most. Work can wait. Chores can wait. People can wait.

Re-center your energy. It’s important.

Cigarettes and Romance

I don’t mind if you smoke. Really, I don’t. Secondhand and smell, I can handle. I will never ask you to quit, nor will I chastise you for it. It is your choice, and I will not judge you.

But don’t expect me to kiss you. I don’t like making out with an ashtray.

Buying Happiness (versus Giving Happiness)

When we were young, people rewarded us for accomplishments. Candy for chores, toys for good grades, etc. As we got older, we came to understand rewards as a part of transactions. I do for you, you do for me. Even on birthdays, gifts have lost much of their appeal because we essentially expect them (or, at least, we’re not at all surprised). And as we start earning and spending our own money, the things we “reward” ourselves with do not satisfy the same level of appeal as, say, winning the lottery by accident.

It is extremely difficult to find joy in something you expect. If you think you deserve it, there is little room for appreciation. And if you know it should be coming, there is little room for surprise. Pure joy lies in the moments in life where fortune smiles down on us and we have no idea why. Therefore, happiness comes from giving and receiving gifts. Receive something unexpectedly or surprise another with a moment of joy, and you will feel great. Spontaneity is key. Transactions are not gifts, so taking a paycheck for work and buying a fancy new toy for yourself is not happiness. You cannot buy your own happiness in this way.

Give a gift today for no reason. Watch what happens.

Consider Doing What You “Shouldn’t”

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I start production next week on our next big series, “Wendy.” Things are very chaotic in prep right now and a lot of hair is being pulled, so there may be a noticeable theme to this week’s posts.

Last night, against all better judgement, I decided to join my friend Korey at the Dodgers/Reds baseball game. I really needed to stay late at the office and get some work done, and then really needed to come home to resolve some personal projects and take care of laundry. I really needed my night last night to get things done. But Korey tabled the offer twenty minutes before we needed to leave for the game, and it took me five seconds to run it through my head and accept. And you know what? The game was exactly what I actually needed. I told myself I shouldn’t go, that I should be doing other things with my night. But to hell with it. And for great reason. At the end of the night, it was clear to me that the game was in fact a “should” that far outweighed the other “shoulds” on my list.

We all get comfortable in cycles, doing the same thing over and over again. Same routine, same schedule, same faces, same activities. For workaholics, that cycle is productivity. For me, I can go weeks on end without putting my projects down. In the long run, it’s not healthy. You do not grow as a human being doing the same thing every day. And it’s not sustainable either. You will collapse and burn or completely fail. You cannot work yourself to the bone and live past fifty. You cannot sit on the couch all day every day and get anywhere in life. And if you get away with doing the same thing every day, god help you when your world unexpectedly changes. You may not be able to cope.

To keep things in perspective and kickstart your “lifestyle metabolism,” you need to break the routine every once in a while. Take a break. Relax. Check out. Do the things you “shouldn’t” do or wouldn’t normally do. Deviations from the routine freshen you up and help you step back far enough to appreciate or analyze your day-to-day. Even if your breaks are not as insightful, they can be restful – and that is always important.

Fresh mind. Fresh body. Fresh life.

Thank you again for the tickets, Korey!

Relax

Anxiety and stress work like ripples through the water. If you are stressed, other people will pick up on it. Stress spreads like a disease. Your day can become everyone else’s bad day. Social physics, my friends.

If you do not enjoy other people being stressed out, one piece of advice: calm down. You first. Set an example. Be the monk. Be a rock in the pond.

If you want to be a great leader, learn how to keep your cool.

Digital Silence

So much of our daily lives rely on phones and computers. We’re connected at every turn, every minute of the day. And most of our entertainment and hobbies now pipes through the network. We never get a break.

Want to truly relax? Need a real vacation? Then turn off your phone and close your laptop. Set everything aside and step into digital silence. For a week, weekend, afternoon, or for even five minutes – you will be surprised how great it can feel. Afraid people will miss you? That’s what voicemail and vacation email responders are for.

Set yourself free.

5 Ways Standing Improves Office Culture

Drew MoxonToday’s guest post is by great friend and fellow USC classmate Drew Moxon. Drew is an entrepreneur and interactive storyteller, currently working as a Producer on the Gears of War franchise at Microsoft Game Studios. He is a master at connecting people and using technology as a social lubricant. Today, he offers a particularly progressive idea on updating the workplace:
 
Enter Drew Moxon:

There has been much to-do recently about the health benefits of standing while working. The body is not used to sitting for such long periods at a time, something we never had the evolutionary need to do until the widespread use of personal computers. While standing at work can be great for you physically, its impact on business culture – your organization’s psychology – can be even greater.

I’ve been standing at work for just over a month now, and the change in mindset that has accompanied the new physical routine has possibly outweighed the health benefits. Along with increased energy (slouching in a chair has this incredible power of sucking the life out of you), here are some of the behavioral improvements it can yield in an organization:

 1.  A mobilized workforce is more likely to solve problems socially

Standing-working encourages social behavior in the workplace by eliminating barriers to moving around – mainly the physical and psychological act of standing up. Most times, an issue is easier to resolve in person than it is over email or IM. Yet, when we have the tools right in front of us, which is more likely to be the norm if we’re already sitting? Walking over to a co-worker (or two or three) can save you time, de-clutter your inbox, and strengthen your team.

2. Increased movement cultivates a proactive culture

Email allows us to put our issues in someone else’s court temporarily – it’s not in my inbox, so I don’t have to worry about it yet. With more movement and in-person interaction also comes the idea that you are responsible for gathering any information necessary and getting buy-in from others.

3.  Activity becomes transparent

When everyone is sitting at their desk all day, activity appears the same; a top-performer is nearly indistinguishable from an underachiever. When movement is encouraged, however, it quickly becomes apparent who is actively engaged in their work and who is not. Seeing your coworkers move around and socialize can encourage you to do the same.

4.  Face to face correspondence thickens social bonds

Because of the nuances in body language, facial emotions, and spacial cues that internet communications lack (even video to an extent), we are not only able to communicate more effectively, but also fraternize more regularly.

5.  Freedom of movement, freedom of thought

When a team is able to flow organically according to in-the-moment needs and unconstrained by their desk chairs, many more ‘innovation moments’ happen – when you run into a co-worker and discover something that can be improved by working together. Having the ability to easily walk away from a problem you’re stuck on and approach it from a different angle presents a huge advantage.

There are only a few of us standing professionals. Imagine your workplace with the whole team standing, bustling around like an open-air market. What impact would it have on your organization’s culture?

Small Plate Dining

I was raised to spend money on two things: travel and food. The latter I do everyday and with zeal. I love food more than almost anything else and treat it like a religious hobby.

 But like everyone, I appreciate a good deal. Dining out does not always carry a high value proposition over cooking at home. I cannot rationalize spending $12 on an Italian pasta when I can make it with ease at home for $3. I can, however, rationalize spending money on a multi-course, ingredient diverse meal that is too grocery-list intensive, time consuming and costly to prepare on my own.

 It is feasible on a normal night to prepare at most three dishes for a meal at home. I expect at least that many when going out to eat. The conventional American orders one entree when dining out. Unless it took 24 hours to prepare or imported some exotic ingredient from a land very far away, I often cannot justify spending double digits on a single entree. At the very least, I need to share entrees with other people. The more, the merrier!

 Small Plate Dining.

TapasJosé Andrés is often credited for bringing small plate dining to the states. More common in Europe, small plate dining embraces the “a little bit of everything” philosophy by offering many dishes too small to sustain an entire meal. The result? You order multiple dishes per sitting and make an entire meal out of appetizer-sized portions. Antipasti and tapas are common on menus and in wine bars where sampling and tasting is a virtue. If you order correctly, you end up with a broad culinary experience nearly impossible and far too expensive to replicate on your own. I will not hesitate to drop three figures on a meal if it presents a large dynamic range of flavors and diverse composition of ingredients.

 Research your nearest tapas bar. Show your taste buds a party!

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Image by Ana Ulin, via Wikimedia Commons.

How to Track Your Sleep And Earn A Better Night’s Rest

The key to a higher quality life is through self assessment. To improve performance, break habits and adjust personal behavior, one must quantify his or her life with gadgets, apps and spreadsheets that help track personal trends and identify areas for improvement. I am very much on board with the Quantified Self school of thought. I maintain spreadsheets galore.

I have never been able to track my sleep in spreadsheets. Why? Well, because I am asleep.

Enter Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock. My friends Drew and Nicole introduced me to this rather handy iOS application that graphs your sleep phases. Place your iPod or iPhone on the bed next to you at night and the accelerometer will monitor your every move to determine which phase of sleep you are in. The main purpose behind the app is to wake you during your lightest sleep phase where you feel rested and relaxed (in a specified time range rather than a hard alarm time), but I have found it more useful for the sleep graphs.

Sleep Cycle Graph

Above, my graph from Friday – went to bed at 1:40am, woke up at 9:59am and slept a total of 8 hours and 19 minutes (believe it or not, college friends – I actually sleep now!).

With only a week of data, I can already see trends. I am taking notes on pre-sleep activity, successful bed times, successful waking times and more. Apparently, a glass of wine within an hour of bedtime has helped me to sleep quicker. Uh oh!

Keep track and you can unlock self improvement.