Tag Archives: Love
Relationships Must Fight To Win
Dig deeper, push boundaries, and put up a fight – together.
Happy thanks and giving!
Cigarettes and Romance
I don’t mind if you smoke. Really, I don’t. Secondhand and smell, I can handle. I will never ask you to quit, nor will I chastise you for it. It is your choice, and I will not judge you.
But don’t expect me to kiss you. I don’t like making out with an ashtray.
Embrace people as if you may never see them again. Because, well, who knows? You might not. Better to live too much love than regret not living enough.
Warmth, compassion, and heart bring people together.
Live honestly and with love. Life is better that way.
Taking Things Slow
When I was growing up, the courtship expression “taking things slow” was entirely sexual. As the world matured and knocking boots became a recreational pastime, that expression became far less definitive. You want to take things slow? Okay, fine. But we’ve already consummated our acquaintance, so what exactly are we taking slow? Exclusivity? Time investment? Attendance at family gatherings? Dark secrets? Shared finances? Contracts? Procreation?
If you want to take things slow, you need to define a pacing metric for the other party involved. It is unreasonable and unnatural to expect the other person to take it easy on all fronts. After all, you would hope he or she is invested in you and wants to share more. While love will always be abstract, communication is imperative and there are a whole host of metrics you can outline. If we’re talking sexual, the bases can be a metric. Dates, deadlines and introductions can be metrics. Be clear about what the milestones are and do your best to sincerely justify your rationale.
No, this is not a relationship advice column. “Taking things slow” applies to business, projects, negotiations, physical therapy, meal consumption, tricycle training, and world domination. Metrics, objectives and scheduling are essential for measuring progress and success.
Happy day to all the mothers out there!
Mom, I can’t thank you enough. You rule.
For everyone else, enjoy this guy:
Overcoming Fear of Death
When I was twelve years old, I would wake up screaming at night after failing to wrap my head around the notion of mortality. I simply could not process the thought of being dead, the thought of not thinking anymore. As I got older, I discovered three different methods for overcoming fear of death:
- Ignorance. Forget inevitability and have a blast instead. Party the night away.
- Devaluation. See less value in what you have to offer and therefore see less value in your life.
- Faith. Accept the balancing and cyclical dynamics of the universe. Trust that life will level out naturally.
I’ve tried all three. Frankly, method two can go to hell. We all have value; we just need to discover it. And I am not a fan of ignorance, so the first method does not work for me either. If you can live life by the seat of your pants and skip past rational thought, by all means have loads of fun. I just ask too many questions to sit back and play along with you.
It takes bravery to invest in the natural processes of the universe and go with the flow. It is damn near impossible to trust things we cannot explain. But those forces are out there and all around us, whether you want them to be or not. You can either fight them or embrace them.
Live. Love. Laugh. Trust. Share. Learn. Go with the flow.
The Easiest Thing You Can Do to Spread Joy
President Lincoln said, “Folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Now, I know everyone isn’t an optimist. We all have bad days. But there is one thing you can do to make a difference, to change it up, and warm the day…
You’ve got a face. Use it! A smile can brighten a person’s day. Everyone wants to be happy, so help them out. They will probably return the favor.
Find it within to muster a real, heartwarming smile. If you can’t find a reason to smile, force yourself to smile anyway. The other person may be able to return the favor with a genuine one instead. Like a yawn, a real smile is contagious. One smile becomes two, two becomes more. Happiness abounds!
Spread the joy. Start with a smile.